Momsie Popsie Diary

Only one take # No Re-take Sounds familiar! In this movie of life, there is only one take and that is full and final. There are no re-takes to amend or modify our actions and deed. Seems amazingly complex! Life is akin to chess where one should take a thoughtful step ahead as every step counts, it can either save you or put you in trouble. The bishops, rooks, knights and pawns represent our thought processes both good and evil. Pawns are like virtues which move simply ahead in honor of their king and queen. Bishops, rooks and knights are bestowed with superior qualities and act like vices. The opponent in this game of life is “Life itself.” The goal is to move ahead thoughtfully, cautiously without endangering ourselves.     The famous Gabbar Singh,s dialogue from Hindi super hit movie Sholay,“ Jo darr gaya, who marr gaya”, reinforces the fact that life is always a mental game. Opportunities are many but there is only one take For every problem there is a solution and every solut

Grief is mine # Let the whole world shine Disclaimer: In this write up, grief means loss of parents or someone real close. Life is what happens to us, at this very moment. The moment is “NOW.” It,s happening every living moment. Are we in a state of awareness? If not, then it,s time to awake, arise and shine . Embrace life# Life is waiting for you! What are you waiting for??There is one moment of realization which hits everybody and causes them to wake up from their slumber. The point to ponder is – do you want to wait for that jolt or are you willing to do it by yourself! Choice is always yours. One of my favorite tagline is “To live life in a fully conscious state is like being in an intoxicant state, which is supreme, divine.” I read a story in Hindi subject, class 9, NCERT. The title is “Dukh ka adhikaar - Right to grief.” After reading this, my mind was flooded with many questions as to how the financial barrier in our society has laid down rights in times of grief too! The

And then………….Life happened! Many years ago, a pious soul took a mortal coil and thus began the journey from start to end. Many simple questions created havoc in the young mind. Few questions were dealt with, few were postponed and for few he was chided. Overpowered by parent,s ideologies, this child somehow never realized when he lost his originality and succumbed under so called society pressures. The usual rat race began with (un)healthy competition among peer groups. In a race (to whom does it really matter) to be the best parents, the child was enrolled in multiple classes besides the regular school classes. Somewhere the childhood was completely lost in running from one class to another. To add to it, the stress on relishing food and importance of chewing food was forgotten. All he heard was,” Come on hurry up! you will get late for the next class.” Holidays were booked for extra stuff which needed to be done in order to stay ahead from peer group (really!). The moments of hap

Two Mothers Vs One mother #  Part 2   Disclaimer : This is seldom discussed but thought deeply. Some may find it sensitive, to some it may seem biased/ one sided, for some it may be too lateral. These are my personal views. Not intended to degrade anybody. Read at your own emotional risk. Reader,s discretion is welcomed.   Ever since my childhood till high school, it never came to my mind that I was a girl and there were certain limitations/restrictions. I owe it entirely to the upbringing of my parents and my school. Whatever my elder brother was allowed, even I was allowed for example swimming, cycling, horse riding etc. In my eighth class, I had organized a trip with my class friends to “Appu Ghar” –Adventure theme park of our times. Momsie always addressed me by numerous pet names like- Raju, Chand, to name a few. Only when I entered medical school, during ragging time, I was hit by the reality of caste, religion and gender. Up till then, I was just a Cambridge School student in pu

Two Mothers Vs One mother- Mother,s Day# Part 1 Caution: Sensitive write up. These are my personal views. Not intended to degrade anybody. Read at your own mental risk. I came across numerous posts and shares on mother,s day. Picture and messages varied as per the age, financial & marital status. One posts which caught my attention was from a male gender who had posted picture with a caption,” Came to know today that women have two mothers and men have only one!”How true is this?? Really! Is this the kind of mentality we are dealing in 21 st century in a developing India! I am quite sure many of the male species might be harboring the same thoughts but somehow few are vocal about it. Marriage is an institution, in which not only two souls get married but their entire family clan gets married in the bargain with an idea to have an extended family. The bride takes the responsibility of accepting her in-laws family as her own. Does the groom also has similar   feelings? I reme

Road map# Map of life A routine call to my Popsie always results in new meaning of life and leaves me enriched and energized. A routine well being call was channelized towards challenges of life. The relevance of one,s past experiences and their validity in present situation. The way our grandparents, parents were raised, the way my generation was raised and the way generation next are being raised seem like a whole new world. The methodology, the environment, the access to technology has evolved at a mind blowing speed. So, as parents how correct is it to repeat our own experiences again and again and expect our children to follow the path which we chose. Are we happy and contented with our lives? If yes, then children will automatically grow as strong individuals It,s high time all of us understand that our children are individuals. Please do not try to force  them into some preset molds. Let them evolve at their own pace and time, let them spread their wings, explore different

Momsie Pospie,s words world: Going through my bookshelf at my workplace, I stumbled upon my personal diary which holds few initial chapters of my novel. Towards the end, I had penned few pearls rather the essence of my parent,s teachings which I learnt in last four decades. In every house, there are certain principles and theories about life, few common terminologies. I will mention few of my all time favorites. 1)     Boarded/Landed : Whenever someone boards a flight/ train, one is supposed to text our Popsie boarded and on reaching their destination as landed. 2)     Agree to Disagree : In family or personal discussions, most of times we lay our cards and mutually agree on our disagreements. Hence, less arguments, more understanding. 3)     Listen to your child : My parents strictly endorse this. Emphasis is on listening to one,s child, make oneself available and provide an environment where the child can express freely without being judged. 4)    Be a good listener : Don’t