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Decoding AAA –Part 2
Disclaimer:
This write up is based on author’s
experiences. There is no intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Any resemblance
to any person is purely co-incidental
Triple A is one of the most powerful words on this planet. Depending upon the situation and one’s state of mind, it can be decoded. In this write up, I will decode Triple A as Alcohol, Anger and Arrogance. Continuing with Part 2 of this,
We all have heard shallow waters make lot of noise
as compared ocean/ sea. Similarly in such souls there is shallowness, weakness
and Triple A is their coping mechanism. In zest to justify themselves such
souls plunge into alcohol or get angry or act arrogant. Their inner self is
scared and impulsive with fear of being judged.
This either dampens or excites the neurons. The normal state of activity
transmission is lost.
Here comes the role of family, friends or other
people. One should sympathize with such souls as they cannot think straight.
One should not expect appropriate behavior. It’s like holding a burning coal in
one’s hand with the intention to hurt the other person, not realising they are
themselves hurting in the process. One just cannot throw dirt on someone
without smearing one’s own hand.
Denial is very strong in majority and hence the
treatment becomes challenging. When one does realises the damage, the
relationships have already been stretched and strained. If not rectified in
stipulated time, these can break permanently. Anything stretched for too long,
leaves a flaccid segment which has just enough strength to hold the ends
together.
All these can be qualified as coping mechanisms. An individual,
who has been criticized a lot during his childhood period, either becomes arrogant
or aggressive. This behavior is defensive as these souls are emotionally weak,
reasons can be many. The most common one is deficiency of parental love especially
mother’s. Adopting this attitude protects them from the external world which hurts them.
One needs to drill through them to identify the nervous child within the huge
exterior who is waiting to be hugged. With abundant love and care, one can hope
to help them or at least gain the confidence in getting a psychologist visit.
Alcohol addiction is seen in our societies since
time immemorial. This is one of the fastest growing culture (? pseudo). Generally,
men are incapable of handling themselves and to release this tremendous
pressure, they indulge in alcohol. This intoxication makes them overcome their
fears and they tend to feel powerful and in control. Of late, many women are
also indulging in this to ease their stress. This is a very strong addiction
which requires immense will power by the person concerned to give it up.
As the great Punjabi Sufi poet Waris Shah says ( Heard from my Popsie umpteen number of times), regarding addiction and habit. The essence is that it is relatively easy to change habit ( although requires immense will power and self control) but very difficult to give up an addiction.
" Wareh Shah na vaibhataan jaandiye ne,
Bhavein band band katwa dehye "
Lets work to change our AAA code to Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment so as to make life beautiful for self and those around.
Living life in a conscious state is the most powerful addiction. Get addicted!
(I will write a separate blog on habit and addiction.)
Juju
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