Momsie Popsie Diary

TEN COMMANDMENTS OF MARRIAGE “ Karwa chauth”, is an auspicious festival in our culture where a married girl prays for long life of her husband.   This is celebrated with immense integrity, love and faith for one,s spouse. This holds a multi dimensional aura with few challenging as to why a wife should fast ? Why not her husband ? Infact, there is not a single fast in our culture (as far as my knowledge goes) where a husband fasts for his wife.  This school of thought even beguiled me for some time in my initial years. However, as I followed this ritual as told by elders. In my sub-conscious mind, a set of dialogues/phrases played (which everyone must have heard   especially by parents, bhabhi, sisters ,in-laws ) like :  “ Marriage is an institution”, “ You should accept your spouse as he is and not make an attempt to change him – unconditional acceptance” “ Marriage for a boy means- end ( in terms of settlement) whereas for a girl ( > 50%), it is the beginning

Yes, I am changing! An ode to creators of life My dear children, When I held you in my arms, my dear pink/blue ladoo,s and we made eye contact. Then, you smiled and wrapped your little fingers around my forefinger. At that very moment ....I changed. Ambitious young girl was gone: A mother was born. When you slept peacefully, to ensure you have uninterrupted sleep, My clinking bangles were gone: A mother was born. When you garlanded your arms around my neck, and said, Mummy, this necklace hurts me, Heavy jewellery was gone: Tulsi mala was born. When you pulled strands from my long black silky hair, played and pulled them umpteen times, Long black tresses (my treasure!) was gone: girl with short hair was born When you innocently remarked, mummy, embroidery / stone/ zari work in your dress cause rash, Heavy dresses were gone: girl in fab india cotton kurti was born. When you wanted to play with me, run around, do cycling etc, High heels/platfor

Settle Down!?!?!? When will you settle down ? It,s high time now!, please think of settling down , .....on and on........... We keep hearing these phrases every now and then. The whole concept of “settling down” is misleading. I think God never meant us to settle down. The very fact our heart, brain, stomach, every cell never settles down ever, till it is nurtured (i.e. gets oxygen and blood flow). Then, why should we settle down? Do we ever settle down at cellular level ? No !!!!!!!!! Right from the time, life enter a mother,s womb till the time we bid goodbye to out mortal physical form, we never settle. Infact, we are God,s supreme work in continuous process of evolving and transforming (either for good or bad, can,t say, depends!) As a beginner on this journey of schoolhouse planet Mother Earth, we think we will settle down after finishing our studies (seriously! Do we ?) Maybe after marriage (Nope!), then we think we might settle down after being success