Karwa Chauth special -Ten Commandments of Marriage

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TEN COMMANDMENTS OF MARRIAGE


“Karwa chauth”, is an auspicious festival in our culture where a married girl prays for long life of her husband.  This is celebrated with immense integrity, love and faith for one,s spouse. This holds a multi dimensional aura with few challenging as to why a wife should fast ? Why not her husband ? Infact, there is not a single fast in our culture (as far as my knowledge goes) where a husband fasts for his wife. 
This school of thought even beguiled me for some time in my initial years. However, as I followed this ritual as told by elders. In my sub-conscious mind, a set of dialogues/phrases played (which everyone must have heard  especially by parents, bhabhi, sisters ,in-laws ) like : 
“ Marriage is an institution”,
“ You should accept your spouse as he is and not make an attempt to change him – unconditional acceptance”
“ Marriage for a boy means- end ( in terms of settlement) whereas for a girl ( > 50%), it is the beginning of a journey (fairy tale ) thanks to Yash Chopra and Karan Johar persons who are epitomes of romance and honeymooning in Swiss Alps ( More than 50 % , dimaag to inn dono ne sabse zayada kharaab kiya hai !- my apologies. May Yash Chopraji soul rest in peace)
“ Shaadi to nibhaani padti hai”,etc,etc,………..

Being on this journey for  two decades with few ups and down , I have penned down “ Ten Commandments for a successful marriage”.

First, is “Importance” – make your spouse feel important as much so that your head rises and heart beats proudly for yr mate,s glory and achievement.
Second, is “Romance” – maintain your sense of humor, make your loved ones smile, let the spark be alive.
Third is “Decisions” – Let the other one choose, make conscious sacrifices, for in their smiles lies your own joy.
Fourth is “ Independence”- Let your mate often be on themselves. A bird knows that it,s heart lies in the nest and it even knows better when flies alone…
Fifth is “ Co-ordination” – plan for working in harmony , plan evening dates with your spouse , plan intimacy….
Sixth is “ Social sphere” – never block the freedom of expression in everybody,s presence. NEVER ! NEVER ! interrupt your spouse in front of others.
Seventh is “Communication” – be open, express freely ( more of positive statements ) like you love/ care him/ her every day. Marriage is not a Saving,s Bank A/c ( ek baar keh diya to life long hai!). It is a current A/c where one needs daily deposits ( of love, care , compassion etc) and withdrawals (of negativity, remorse, arguments etc..)
Eighth is ” Arguments “- Differences are bound to happen, key is learning to agree to disagree (My FPG,s favourite point), so that arguments metamorphosize into discussions.
Ninth is “Companionship”- Be united ( as one entity) in front of others even if there is disagreement at home (My FPG,s favourite point). Your togetherness is your strength which will keep ill wishers / home breakers at bay.
Last is “Appreciation” – Appreciate your spouse for his/ her unique identity. Don,t try to change. Appreciate for who they are. I read somewhere, you have accepted a rose …….and a rose can’t become a jasmine…. However hard you may try …. So, appreciate your mate .

“Marriage is like wine; becomes intense, aromatic and soul soothing with each passing moment”.

Coming back to the point, Lets, celebrate Karwa Chauth with pure love, bliss and dedication, for your husband with no analysis and conditions !
Women are creators of life and have immense power to nuture, protect and take care of their creations in various forms - mother, wife, sister, daughter..
I always feel" Women are far more superior then men " Not a lengthy essay to endorse my point -Just one line, God could trust only women and hence gave her the power to create". Think it over !!!!

May God bless you all in abundance.
With all my love and strength,
Juju



Comments

Shelza said…
Superb... keep writing... ✍️👍
October 17, 2019 at 10:26 AM
Vinanti said…
Fabulous writing Reemanshu. Keep posting


October 17, 2019 at 10:49 AM
Dr Neelesh Bansal said…
Thanks dear Dr. Shelza, Dr. Vinanti , Dr. Neelesh
October 17, 2019 at 5:31 PM
Sanjana said…
Happy karvachauth dear.....keep writing!!!😘😘😘😘
October 18, 2019 at 10:28 AM
Dr kajal said…
Beautiful blogs.. i am always waiting for your next blog...
October 23, 2019 at 1:24 PM
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