Social media puppet!

Social media puppet!

P.S. The title is to catch attention. Read up to find out more.

 

I was scrolling through my mobile and the above heading caught my attention. Three signs, you are in a toxic relationship! I decided to open the link to read about it. The short reel/ video mentions 3 warning signals to identify whether one is in a toxic relationship. After watching this, I was engulfed with a peculiar feeling as my score was 3/3. This set me in a thinking mode and stat my cap was on my head beaming with pride.

Numerous thoughts started churning inside my brain. How can 3 signs define whether you are in a toxic relationship? There were many such reels/ videos like 3 signs your spouse is cheating on you, 3 signs your spouse loves you and so on. I felt all these were bombarding negativity. This is like quick sand. One (wrong) click on a particular eye catchy title link leads to similar posts and within a span of few seconds the Pandora's box opens up.

Sharing the 3 signs mentioned were - First, your spouse always sounds busy whenever you call. Second, your spouse is spending less time than before and thirdly, when it comes to you, your spouse always has a financial crunch whereas they spend on themselves. I feel many of us will score 3/3. In forties, everyone deals with similar challenges besides making a livelihood. On one hand, there are parents, on other hand there are growing up children, who need constant attention and care. Anyone can experience these signs. One needs to be strong minded while reading such topics. I also feel, such type of write ups appeal more only when one is going through a lean phase in a relationship. Remember, in this game of life,  one needs to stay afloat in relationships.

In a matter of few minutes I felt being pulled into a negativity well with mighty force as my heart and soul started validating all these three signs. Suddenly, I felt an abrupt halt and yet again I felt being pulled by an unseen force, but this time in reverse, upward direction. The sky was clear and so were my thoughts and mind. I learnt yet another important lesson in a matter of few minutes. To be very cautious and careful of what one reads and to keep one’s brain in control of one’s heart/mind.

I remember my all-time favorite lines from Bhagwad Geeta, 

“Your heart is like a horse and it’s reins must be in hands of the charioteer /brain.” Whenever, there is role reversal, calamity is inevitable. Here I endorse Mahatma Gandhi’s three monkeys, “Bura matt dekho, bura matt suno, bura matt bolo.”

I hope and pray, all of us keep the reins of our heart firm and tight with our three monkeys well behaved.

Watch out for what you read, see and hear.

Keep reading, keep sharing.

Juju

The NEET Warrior

 "NEET Warrior"

PS: This write up is dedicated to all the parents, teachers and students who have appeared for NEET or are preparing for NEET.

 

The answer key of NEET (National Eligibility Entrance Test) was released yesterday. I sent a congratulatory message to one of my colleagues. There was a prompt reply, " Score is less, hope to get admission in a private college." 

Students who have scored high, or the students who have scored as per their expectation or those who have scored less, none seems to be satisfied with their performance in the exam. To keep the vibe positive, I replied “You are a parent of a NEET warrior. Salute your warrior.” The desired effect was palpable.

To become a doctor in our country, one needs to appear for NEET, which is a merit-based exam. Out of more than eighteen lakh students who appear only eighty thousand or so are able to get a gate pass to enter this medical world. Students usually start from ninth class. Exceptions are always there (some start from class sixth or maybe earlier). This requires persistence, dedication, endurance, sharp thinking, quick reflexes and a strong mindset to keep oneself motivated. Parents and teachers play a pivotal role. This is a difficult path and requires constant support (emotional is on top of the list) by parents. For teachers it a herculean task to maintain the tempo throughout the two -year duration. For parents, it’s their own child whereas for teachers, they have to keep well being of all their students in mind.

Students get used to rising up early, going for classes, preparing for tests and having a busy lifestyle. All parties, get togethers, vacations take a back seat. I always believe, ‘When the goal is big, so will be the sacrifices.” One should always enjoy their studies with the mindset to gain knowledge. Knowledge is a wealth which can never be stolen and always multiplies by sharing. Parents! please make sure that your child gets the message that he/she is not marks. The child is already under tremendous pressure to perform and enroll in a college of their choice.

Concluding this write-up (otherwise, it can stretch) with a request to change one’s mindset and see these students as NEET warriors and their parents and teachers as their army. Automatically, respect will generate from within. Let’s celebrate our warriors as the last  two years were taxing and have caused lot mental and physical stress. 

Hug your warrior and convey the message via clear conduct, “My child, you did your best,  and we love you unconditionally. You are not marks.” Filling up their emotional and psychological saucer is the need of hour.

Keep cherishing life, Keep loving life.

Juju.      

  

Ganpati Bappa Moraya !

 Dear readers,

Ganpati Bappa Moraya.

I have initiated a campaign for this festival month. Avail a 15% discount on your buy of Momsie Popsie Diary Tea time chit chat on living life by using the coupon GANPATI15.

The links are as below 

Indian Links:

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International Links:

For USA, Australia, Singapore

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https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1649516959

 For Canada

https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1649516959

Hurry! what are you waiting for ?

Happy ordering, happy reading.

Keep reading, keep sharing.

Love ,

Juju's Pearls 

Listing links of my 9th book # Stories from India Volume I

My dear readers, 

Please find below the links for Stories from India Volume I.

My story features first 

" The Great Indian Marriage Facade" 

Ukiyoto All Variants - https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/stories-from-india-volume-i

Amazon eBook - https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0B8XMWTH5

Amazon Paperback - https://www.amazon.com/dp/9355970978

Keep loving, keep caring,

Keep reading, Keep sharing.

Juju 

Listing links of my 8th Book - Summer Waves Volume II

Dear readers,

Please find below the links for my 8th book , Summer Waves Volume II,

Ukiyoto All Variants - https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/summer-waves-volume-ii

Amazon eBook - https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0B8DRC9N5

Amazon Paperback - https://www.amazon.com/dp/9355970854

Will update links for my 9th & 10th book soon.

Keep reading, Keep sharing.

Love,

Juju

A Summer Warrior (Genre #humor)

A Summer Warrior

This write up is dedicated to all the beautiful souls living in Northern India especially, Delhi, Punjab, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh. All of us will resonate with this.

It’s always a thought provoking session with my Popsie. A routine call usually gives birth to new ideas and terminologies. Last night when I was talking to him, this write up got it’s name. Sharing a clip of the conversation we had. (Referring Popise as P and myself as J)

J: “Hello daddyji, so how’s life treating you?”

P: “ Badiya ( means very good) ! Things are going on fine, life is running smoothly on the track with no station or halt as of now!”

J ; “ Sounds great! Have you resumed your walk? How’z the weather ?”

P: “Yes, I did go to the park but it’s still humid here in Delhi. How's the weather? Is it raining?”

(This last line touched my Achilles spot. Monsoon season is a touchy topic for souls like us living in semi desert terrains. Every day the weather forecast raises our hopes, only to quash it. Out comes the sun with hot fire breathing rays and humid,suffocating weather. We go to bed dejected and again wake up with hope and faith.)

J: “ Daddyji, here God has started his own Sauna system. We are sweating and sweating and sweating. The drops of perspiration start from the nape of neck run down the spine till the hip region. The song “Tip tip barsa paani” echo in my ears and I can feel the pain of the song writer when he must have conceived this song.”

P: “That sounds great, God is very kind. He has saved all of you from a Steam/ Sauna visit. Enjoy and be grateful. All your skin pores will open up and you with detoxify.”

J: “ Daddyji, I feel like a warrior braving this intense heat wave of Indian summers. The enemy is the heat, humid air, scorching sun and hot wind. Every day, when I leave for my workplace, after applying sunscreen and wearing my cap, I feel like a warrior who is on a mission to beat this hot humid day and return home a winner after completing the day’s work.”

(As these words came out of my mouth, I held my head high and my chest swelled with pride. I felt like a soul of Great Maharana Pratap had merged with my soul and I felt like a true brave heart.)

P: “ That,s a nice approach towards life. It’s all a mind game, how to convince yourself. We can only fold our hands and accept almighty’s decision. Good night.”

J: “Good night daddyji.”

As I keep my mobile on the side table, I realise ( yet one another time) that life is all about how you make it.

I coin this term “Summer Warrior” and dedicate to each and every soul living in such climatic conditions. My outlook changed in a matter of few minutes. Now I visualize myself and everyone around as “A Summer warrior” and salute them for living life in a larger picture. Now I am friends with sun and air. Remember we are bravehearts.

Keep reading, Keep sharing.

Happy Monsoons!

Juju

Listing Links of my 7th book -The Kolkata Diaries Volume II,

 Listing Links of my 7th book -The Kolkata Diaries Volume II,

Hello my dear readers,

Sharing below the links and details for The Kolkata Diaries Volume II.

Ukiyoto India (all variants) - https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/the-kolkata-diaries-volume-ii

Amazon eBook - https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0B6Q5JMBN

Amazon Paperback - https://www.amazon.in/Kolkata-Diaries-II-Jujus-Pearls/dp/9390510678/

Keep loving, Keep caring, Keep reading, keep sharing.

Love, 

Juju's Pearls

 

Decoding AAA –Part 2

 Decoding AAA –Part 2

Disclaimer: This write up is based on author’s experiences. There is no intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Any resemblance to any person is purely co-incidental

Triple A is one of the most powerful words on this planet. Depending upon the situation and one’s state of mind, it can be decoded. In this write up, I will decode Triple A as Alcohol, Anger and Arrogance. Continuing with Part 2 of this,

We all have heard shallow waters make lot of noise as compared ocean/ sea. Similarly in such souls there is shallowness, weakness and Triple A is their coping mechanism. In zest to justify themselves such souls plunge into alcohol or get angry or act arrogant. Their inner self is scared and impulsive with fear of being judged.  This either dampens or excites the neurons. The normal state of activity transmission is lost.

Here comes the role of family, friends or other people. One should sympathize with such souls as they cannot think straight. One should not expect appropriate behavior. It’s like holding a burning coal in one’s hand with the intention to hurt the other person, not realising they are themselves hurting in the process. One just cannot throw dirt on someone without smearing one’s own hand.

Denial is very strong in majority and hence the treatment becomes challenging. When one does realises the damage, the relationships have already been stretched and strained. If not rectified in stipulated time, these can break permanently. Anything stretched for too long, leaves a flaccid segment which has just enough strength to hold the ends together.

All these can be qualified as coping mechanisms. An individual, who has been criticized a lot during his childhood period, either becomes arrogant or aggressive. This behavior is defensive as these souls are emotionally weak, reasons can be many. The most common one is deficiency of parental love especially mother’s. Adopting this attitude protects them from the external world which hurts them. One needs to drill through them to identify the nervous child within the huge exterior who is waiting to be hugged. With abundant love and care, one can hope to help them or at least gain the confidence in getting a psychologist visit.

Alcohol addiction is seen in our societies since time immemorial. This is one of the fastest growing culture (? pseudo). Generally, men are incapable of handling themselves and to release this tremendous pressure, they indulge in alcohol. This intoxication makes them overcome their fears and they tend to feel powerful and in control. Of late, many women are also indulging in this to ease their stress. This is a very strong addiction which requires immense will power by the person concerned to give it up.

As the great Punjabi Sufi poet Waris Shah says ( Heard from my Popsie umpteen number of times), regarding addiction and habit. The essence is that it is relatively easy to change habit ( although requires immense will power and self control) but very difficult to give up an addiction.

" Wareh Shah na vaibhataan jaandiye ne,

Bhavein band band katwa dehye  "

Lets work to change our AAA code to  Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment so as to make life beautiful for self and those around.

Living life in a conscious state is the most powerful addiction. Get addicted!

(I will write a separate blog on habit and addiction.)

Juju  

 

Decoding AAA- Part 1

Decoding AAA - Part 1

Disclaimer: This write up is based on author’s experiences. There is no intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Any resemblance to any person is purely coincidental 

 "Triple A " is one of the most powerful words on this planet. Depending upon the situation and one’s state of mind, it can be decoded. In this write up, I will decode Triple A as Alcohol, Anger and Arrogance.

Mental imbalance need not be necessarily after alcohol intake. Anger and arrogance are powerful stimulants which causes aggressive behavior. The brunt is borne by close family mainly spouse and children. The seeds are sown in-utero or during early childhood. A new born soul is pure, pious, peaceful, powerful. The surrounding environment shapes his personality and character.  

A soul which harbors either of these will create an invisible fort around for their protection, rather than for people around them. The behavioral pattern is same in all these cases. There are periods of aggression followed by soberness. There is a perpetual state of denial in all three types. All these bring about a state of temporary control. The goal is to live and let live and achieve absolute happiness. A state of denial never opens doors for improvement.  

De addiction and emotional management therapy can only work when a person accepts the fact that their behavior is causing irreparable damage in all relations. Only when denial mode resets to acceptance mode, the therapy can actually work. The first step is the most courageous one, as this is a fight with self. Inner fights are the greatest fights.

Miracles can happen if one is willing to replace AAA battery with new AAA battery of Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment so as to make life beautiful for self and those around. Only then one can lead a contented, fulfilled life.

Checking one’s AAA batteries regularly and timely replacement is the key for peace and harmony of self and those around.

To be continued...

Love,

Juju  

 

Need of the hour # Man empowerment!

Need of the hour # Man empowerment!

Since time immemorial, there has been hype about empowering women, the weaker sex, the fairer sex. Hypocrisy lies in the fact people who talk about such things have been brought into this world by a woman. How can a cat bear a lion? Only a lioness can bear a lion. All this heavy word talk carries no meaning and should be discarded as useless.

Why label the female gender as weak and then talk about empowerment. If the label is removed, all of us will see women as an individual. None can judge the power of a woman who carries a child in her womb for nine month. The ability to bear pain during child birth, the patience to nurture a child, the selfless nature to leave her childhood home and make a man’s four walled house a home, only a woman can do.

If man wants to survive, then they should rise above their ego and acknowledge woman as their counterpart and not as rivals. There can never ever be a comparison between a man and a woman. For comparison, parameters of both sides should be same. In this situation, the moulds are entirely different in terms of physical attributes, emotional power and highest of all, the ability to reproduce.

One can never elevate one’s orbit by putting someone down. One has to rise above the ground to be able to get a clear view. In humans, the journey is always started from at least two to three feet above the ground level, depending upon the height of one’s mother. Yet, their vision is compromised.

Only a woman can empower a man besides empowering herself and other women. This question is still unanswered as to why/how a man who is raised finely by a woman (in mother’s role) disrespects other women, even woman in his own house once he grows up? Are there many grey areas in a boy/man's upbringing?

The answer lies in woman’s change of behavior in different roles at various stages of her life.  Woman, who appreciates and praises her doting son in law ( who listens to her daughter), finds her own son as daughter in law’s servant and never misses a chance to be vocal about it. Isn’t it ironical? Daughter’s husband is praised for taking care of his wife, whereas her own son is humiliated for doing the same. 

The crux is the insecurity of the elder woman. The mother in law eyes her daughter in law as a competitor and never really accepts her. Man is sandwiched in between, however makes the best of the situation and starts dominating

Let’s not waste our energies in blame games. Accept the situation and try to make the best of it. In this circle of relationships, let’s help one another in rising. Let’s see a person as a soul without any labels of gender, economic and financial status. Then life would be worth living, happy and satisfying.

Strive to connect at soul level. Small steps in the right direction will lead to a happy destination.

Happy soul connections!

Love,

Juju.

 

 

 

 

         

 

 

Listing links of my 6th Book- How I calibrate my life

Hello my dear readers, 

I am sharing listing links of my 6th Book 

How I calibrate my life 

Amazon link 

 https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0B468LWN2?ref=myi_title_dp

Amazon Kindle 

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0B46DBL2T

Keep loving keep caring

Keep reading keep sharing 

Love,

Juju's Pearls