My dear readers,
Dear readers,
A Summer Warrior
This
write up is dedicated to all the beautiful souls living in Northern India especially,
Delhi, Punjab, Haryana and Uttar Pradesh. All of us will resonate with this.
It’s always a thought provoking session with my Popsie.
A routine call usually gives birth to new ideas and terminologies. Last night
when I was talking to him, this write up got it’s name. Sharing a clip of the
conversation we had. (Referring Popise as P and myself as J)
J:
“Hello daddyji, so how’s life treating you?”
P:
“ Badiya ( means very good) ! Things are going on fine, life is running smoothly
on the track with no station or halt as of now!”
J
; “ Sounds great! Have you resumed your walk? How’z the weather ?”
P:
“Yes, I did go to the park but it’s still humid here in Delhi. How's the
weather? Is it raining?”
(This
last line touched my Achilles spot. Monsoon season is a touchy topic for souls
like us living in semi desert terrains. Every day the weather forecast raises
our hopes, only to quash it. Out comes the sun with hot fire breathing rays and humid,suffocating weather. We go to bed dejected and again wake up with hope and faith.)
J:
“ Daddyji, here God has started his own Sauna system. We are sweating and sweating
and sweating. The drops of perspiration start from the nape of neck run down
the spine till the hip region. The song “Tip tip barsa paani” echo in my ears
and I can feel the pain of the song writer when he must have conceived this
song.”
P:
“That sounds great, God is very kind. He has saved all of you from a Steam/
Sauna visit. Enjoy and be grateful. All your skin pores will open up and you with
detoxify.”
J:
“ Daddyji, I feel like a warrior braving this intense heat wave of Indian
summers. The enemy is the heat, humid air, scorching sun and hot wind. Every day,
when I leave for my workplace, after applying sunscreen and wearing my cap, I
feel like a warrior who is on a mission to beat this hot humid day and return
home a winner after completing the day’s work.”
(As
these words came out of my mouth, I held my head high and my chest swelled with
pride. I felt like a soul of Great Maharana Pratap had merged with my soul and
I felt like a true brave heart.)
P:
“ That,s a nice approach towards life. It’s all a mind game, how to convince yourself.
We can only fold our hands and accept almighty’s decision. Good night.”
J:
“Good night daddyji.”
As I keep my mobile on the side table, I realise ( yet one another time) that life is all about how you make it.
I coin this term “Summer Warrior” and dedicate to
each and every soul living in such climatic conditions. My outlook changed in a
matter of few minutes. Now I visualize myself and everyone around as “A Summer warrior” and salute them for
living life in a larger picture. Now I am friends with sun and air. Remember we are bravehearts.
Keep reading, Keep sharing.
Happy Monsoons!
Juju
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Juju's Pearls
Decoding AAA –Part 2
Disclaimer:
This write up is based on author’s
experiences. There is no intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Any resemblance
to any person is purely co-incidental
Triple A is one of the most powerful words on this planet. Depending upon the situation and one’s state of mind, it can be decoded. In this write up, I will decode Triple A as Alcohol, Anger and Arrogance. Continuing with Part 2 of this,
We all have heard shallow waters make lot of noise
as compared ocean/ sea. Similarly in such souls there is shallowness, weakness
and Triple A is their coping mechanism. In zest to justify themselves such
souls plunge into alcohol or get angry or act arrogant. Their inner self is
scared and impulsive with fear of being judged.
This either dampens or excites the neurons. The normal state of activity
transmission is lost.
Here comes the role of family, friends or other
people. One should sympathize with such souls as they cannot think straight.
One should not expect appropriate behavior. It’s like holding a burning coal in
one’s hand with the intention to hurt the other person, not realising they are
themselves hurting in the process. One just cannot throw dirt on someone
without smearing one’s own hand.
Denial is very strong in majority and hence the
treatment becomes challenging. When one does realises the damage, the
relationships have already been stretched and strained. If not rectified in
stipulated time, these can break permanently. Anything stretched for too long,
leaves a flaccid segment which has just enough strength to hold the ends
together.
All these can be qualified as coping mechanisms. An individual,
who has been criticized a lot during his childhood period, either becomes arrogant
or aggressive. This behavior is defensive as these souls are emotionally weak,
reasons can be many. The most common one is deficiency of parental love especially
mother’s. Adopting this attitude protects them from the external world which hurts them.
One needs to drill through them to identify the nervous child within the huge
exterior who is waiting to be hugged. With abundant love and care, one can hope
to help them or at least gain the confidence in getting a psychologist visit.
Alcohol addiction is seen in our societies since
time immemorial. This is one of the fastest growing culture (? pseudo). Generally,
men are incapable of handling themselves and to release this tremendous
pressure, they indulge in alcohol. This intoxication makes them overcome their
fears and they tend to feel powerful and in control. Of late, many women are
also indulging in this to ease their stress. This is a very strong addiction
which requires immense will power by the person concerned to give it up.
As the great Punjabi Sufi poet Waris Shah says ( Heard from my Popsie umpteen number of times), regarding addiction and habit. The essence is that it is relatively easy to change habit ( although requires immense will power and self control) but very difficult to give up an addiction.
" Wareh Shah na vaibhataan jaandiye ne,
Bhavein band band katwa dehye "
Lets work to change our AAA code to Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment so as to make life beautiful for self and those around.
Living life in a conscious state is the most powerful addiction. Get addicted!
(I will write a separate blog on habit and addiction.)
Juju
Decoding AAA - Part 1
Disclaimer:
This write up is based on author’s
experiences. There is no intention to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Any resemblance
to any person is purely coincidental
Mental imbalance need not be necessarily after alcohol
intake. Anger and arrogance are powerful stimulants which causes aggressive
behavior. The brunt is borne by close family mainly spouse and children. The
seeds are sown in-utero or during early childhood. A new born soul is pure,
pious, peaceful, powerful. The surrounding environment shapes his personality
and character.
A soul which harbors either of these will create an
invisible fort around for their protection, rather than for people around them.
The behavioral pattern is same in all these cases. There are periods of
aggression followed by soberness. There is a perpetual state of denial in all three
types. All these bring about a state of temporary control. The goal is to live
and let live and achieve absolute happiness. A state of denial never opens doors
for improvement.
De addiction and emotional management therapy can
only work when a person accepts the fact that their behavior is causing irreparable
damage in all relations. Only when denial mode resets to acceptance mode, the
therapy can actually work. The first step is the most courageous one, as this is a fight
with self. Inner fights are the greatest fights.
Miracles can happen if one is willing to replace AAA
battery with new AAA battery of Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment so as to make
life beautiful for self and those around. Only then one can lead a contented,
fulfilled life.
Checking one’s AAA batteries regularly and timely replacement
is the key for peace and harmony of self and those around.
To be continued...
Love,
Juju
Need of the hour # Man empowerment!
Since time immemorial, there has been hype about empowering women, the weaker sex, the fairer sex. Hypocrisy lies in the fact people who talk about such things have been brought into this world by a woman. How can a cat bear a lion? Only a lioness can bear a lion. All this heavy word talk carries no meaning and should be discarded as useless.
Why label the female gender as weak and then talk about empowerment. If the label is removed, all of us will see women as an individual. None can judge the power of a woman who carries a child in her womb for nine month. The ability to bear pain during child birth, the patience to nurture a child, the selfless nature to leave her childhood home and make a man’s four walled house a home, only a woman can do.
If man wants to survive, then they should rise above their ego and acknowledge woman as their counterpart and not as rivals. There can never ever be a comparison between a man and a woman. For comparison, parameters of both sides should be same. In this situation, the moulds are entirely different in terms of physical attributes, emotional power and highest of all, the ability to reproduce.
One can never elevate one’s orbit by putting someone down. One has to rise above the ground to be able to get a clear view. In humans, the journey is always started from at least two to three feet above the ground level, depending upon the height of one’s mother. Yet, their vision is compromised.
Only a woman can empower a man besides empowering herself and other women. This question is still unanswered as to why/how a man who is raised finely by a woman (in mother’s role) disrespects other women, even woman in his own house once he grows up? Are there many grey areas in a boy/man's upbringing?
The answer lies in woman’s change of behavior in different roles at various stages of her life. Woman, who appreciates and praises her doting son in law ( who listens to her daughter), finds her own son as daughter in law’s servant and never misses a chance to be vocal about it. Isn’t it ironical? Daughter’s husband is praised for taking care of his wife, whereas her own son is humiliated for doing the same.
The crux is the insecurity of the elder woman. The mother in law eyes her daughter in law as a competitor and never really accepts her. Man is sandwiched in between, however makes the best of the situation and starts dominating
Let’s not waste our energies in blame games. Accept the situation and try to make the best of it. In this circle of relationships, let’s help one another in rising. Let’s see a person as a soul without any labels of gender, economic and financial status. Then life would be worth living, happy and satisfying.
Strive to connect at soul level. Small steps in the right direction will lead to a happy destination.
Happy soul connections!
Love,
Juju.
Social battery! “Maa! my social battery is low, I will call you tomorrow. Good night!” my younger monk said, while disconnecting the line....