Momsie Popsie Diary

Ahoi Ashtami –Prayer for her creation - Part 1 A routine casual good morning greeting to my daughter (who is in hostel) led to this write up when my daughter remarked, “Mummy! if you are observing this fast for our well being then, we should also keep a fast for our parents well being.” Ahoi Ashtami celebrated on the eighth day from Poornima and week prior to Diwali i.e. Amavasya, falls on the same day as Diwali. As compared to “Karva Chauth” the enthusiasm and commercialization of this festival are to a far lesser degree may be minimal (my feeling, not intended to hurt anyone,s sentiments). for me, observing this fast is much more than a ritual. I penned down a few thoughts which crossed my mind for an effective parent-child relationship. Communication : We are not born as parents. As we are on this journey of teaching our children; similarly our children teach us how to become effective parents. As my FPG says, effective communication is a key and this key should keep the comm

TEN COMMANDMENTS OF MARRIAGE “ Karwa chauth”, is an auspicious festival in our culture where a married girl prays for long life of her husband.   This is celebrated with immense integrity, love and faith for one,s spouse. This holds a multi dimensional aura with few challenging as to why a wife should fast ? Why not her husband ? Infact, there is not a single fast in our culture (as far as my knowledge goes) where a husband fasts for his wife.  This school of thought even beguiled me for some time in my initial years. However, as I followed this ritual as told by elders. In my sub-conscious mind, a set of dialogues/phrases played (which everyone must have heard   especially by parents, bhabhi, sisters ,in-laws ) like :  “ Marriage is an institution”, “ You should accept your spouse as he is and not make an attempt to change him – unconditional acceptance” “ Marriage for a boy means- end ( in terms of settlement) whereas for a girl ( > 50%), it is the beginning

Yes, I am changing! An ode to creators of life My dear children, When I held you in my arms, my dear pink/blue ladoo,s and we made eye contact. Then, you smiled and wrapped your little fingers around my forefinger. At that very moment ....I changed. Ambitious young girl was gone: A mother was born. When you slept peacefully, to ensure you have uninterrupted sleep, My clinking bangles were gone: A mother was born. When you garlanded your arms around my neck, and said, Mummy, this necklace hurts me, Heavy jewellery was gone: Tulsi mala was born. When you pulled strands from my long black silky hair, played and pulled them umpteen times, Long black tresses (my treasure!) was gone: girl with short hair was born When you innocently remarked, mummy, embroidery / stone/ zari work in your dress cause rash, Heavy dresses were gone: girl in fab india cotton kurti was born. When you wanted to play with me, run around, do cycling etc, High heels/platfor

Settle Down!?!?!? When will you settle down ? It,s high time now!, please think of settling down , .....on and on........... We keep hearing these phrases every now and then. The whole concept of “settling down” is misleading. I think God never meant us to settle down. The very fact our heart, brain, stomach, every cell never settles down ever, till it is nurtured (i.e. gets oxygen and blood flow). Then, why should we settle down? Do we ever settle down at cellular level ? No !!!!!!!!! Right from the time, life enter a mother,s womb till the time we bid goodbye to out mortal physical form, we never settle. Infact, we are God,s supreme work in continuous process of evolving and transforming (either for good or bad, can,t say, depends!) As a beginner on this journey of schoolhouse planet Mother Earth, we think we will settle down after finishing our studies (seriously! Do we ?) Maybe after marriage (Nope!), then we think we might settle down after being success

Dear Diary, A routine call in the morning, lead to creation of this post. ( Disclaimer :   This post is entirely fictional. Any resemblance to anyone is purely co-incidental). Cell phone rings, Tring...tring...... !!!!!!!! “ Hello, May I speak to Ms.Z” Ms. Z “ Yah, speaking “Sir, you are our esteemed customer, so bank ABC has decided to increase your credit card limit from xx to xxxx for (with suspense in voice) free. If you confirm, I will process the request.” Ms Z,” Not interested please.” Sir you are not getting my point, it,s for free , why are you hesitant? No hidden charges , its for FREE .” Ms Z , “ Sorry, not interested “ Voice intervenes , it,s free ….. ( tails off as Ms Z ends the call). Another call, Hello, Sir aapka ka lucky draw mein naam aaya hai, gift lene ke liye aapko date xxx, time y : yy par,   place zzz par aana hoga !” Ms Z ,”   I have never taken any lucky draw tickets.” Sir, this is our company,s promotion draw as it’s a new

Dear Diary, Festival season, festive mood, high spirits, happy faces, everything is full of life , blooming, blossoming. A little humor will add the much required flavor. ( Disclaimer :   This post is entirely fictional. Any resemblance to anyone is purely co-incidental). Case Scenario 6 (Oozing with smartness kinds) Patient walks in for ultrasound examination of abdomen. Staff helps the patient lie down, requests the upper clothing to be rolled up and to loosen the belt and lower A casual reminder to the staff to expose the part to be examined properly, as scanning will be done of the exposed part only. Never in my wildest dreams thought, patient was intently listening. Silently,the patient gets up, removes his shirt and lower and to everyone,s surprise, lies on the examination table only in his boxer shorts ( ONLY ! Imagine the shocked faces of doctor and staff,   . Alas ! my good lord, what happened? No one asked the patient to undress. Patient (smiling

Dear Diary, Here comes the kartik month spreading festivals and celebrations everywhere. Everyone's seems to be in an unusual happy, peaceful space. Even I was caught up in this space for quite some time ,that  I neglected my child : my blog. There was  a delay in  relay from my blog. So many thoughts and stories keep moving around within my white matter . Finally, I have caught hold of few important ones, which need to be penned down, to bring them to life. This weekend, will bring alive few hard core facts. Till then take care, keep loving, keep reading, keep sharing. Love, Juju