The right time to leave your child’s hand!

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The right time to leave your child’s hand!

Disclaimer: This write up is my personal view point. Readers are free to differ. And can write their views in comments section.

 

Children belong to future. They come through us but we do not own them. If each one of us remember above two lines, life will be much easier for each one of us.

None of us are born parents. We become parents after the birth of our first born and here one’s child is one’s teacher. Each child demands different style of parenting. So, there is no rule book to master to become the best parents. There is no competition or race. Each parent does the best job as per their own knowledge, wisdom and instinct. 

When is the right time to leave your child’s hand? This is a million dollar question. Each one is bound to have their answer. I always believe in holding the hand of your child till they leave it, and not parents releasing the hand clasp earlier. The intention is pure and pious, the unconditional love for their children to make them independent.

Everyone likes a space where they do things by their choice. Anything done by choice gives immense satisfaction than a decision imposed. Similar happens in this case. When a child leaves the hand as per their own choice, there is tremendous boost in their self confidence. In a situation, where the parent withdraws the hand, the child may feel insecure. This may result in child clinging on for more time. The choice is always ours, as parents. It’s only a matter of few days or weeks, Sooner or later, your child will be independent. Don’t be in a hurry to do so. The after void is not well taken by many parents

Cherish this clasp for as long as it goes. Your child will leave you some day or the other. Let the parent child hand clasp be firm brimming with love and confidence. Let the choice be of your child. 

Happy parenting!

Love,

Juju

Comments

Dr.Shweta Mittal said…
Hey that's t hard fact of life.. so true
June 12, 2022 at 12:09 AM
Ashish Patel said…
Very true regarding kids'self esteem.! At times, we as parents should be ready for that moment when the kids want to be independent.!
June 12, 2022 at 1:10 AM
Anonymous said…
This is a very hard decision to make infact.we parents have to be very bold to see our child toggle and still keep distance.
June 12, 2022 at 6:33 AM
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