Ghosting !
Ghosting!
Understanding
this term is fine. Important is to understand why does one ghost? This has deep
roots as to how one is brought up in this world and later how the person views this
world. Walking on my literary path, I have realized human behaviour and
responses are a summation of their childhood experiences and their bonding with
their parents.
Another aspect
is who holds priority in your life. One will never ghost people who are at
higher level. This is meant for only those whom one considers inferior. A
mother in law doesn’t feel the need to answer or call back her daughter in
law’s message. But she will quickly reply to her son or daughter or son in law.
Daughter in laws are not acknowledged even after spending decades in the
household. Unknowingly the seeds of ghosting and hatred are sown in her mind
and she may behave the same way when she is in elevated in her status.
The
environment in one’s family and behaviour of parents with their children and
other relatives and helpers is the crux. The duty of a parent is huge as they
are nurturing a future adult. The onus is always on the parents. With changing
times, mind sets are also changing. Looking after one’s own child has been categorized
as a Mother’s job. With working women on the rise, children are left in custody
of helpers/ home cares or with grandparents (in the best scenario).
I always
empower and motivate souls in my aura. One needs to devise a strategy and
mechanism so that your child feels your presence in your absence. Women are
good at this.
In majority of
cases, women who are home makers feel their worth is less than their working
husband. One needs to understand, men by nature are providers. Earning is just
aspect, the main job is how to run the house smoothly in that a defined
financial amount. This gender gap is too large and I believe will never be get
closed till same gender respect each other.
To conclude,
if you feel you are being ghosted, trust your guts. And try and understand that
the person who is ghosting you, many a times has nothing to do with you. It’s
about their own mental state, insecurities and complexes. This reflects more
about them rather than you. This is workable and acceptable in friendships. If
this happens in relationships especially loved ones, it hurts really deep. Be
strong enough to forgive and move on.
You never
criticize or bad mouth a person who is ill. Such persons are in lower stages of
evolvement. Sympathize with them.
Ghosting is
God’s own way of filtering out souls not required in your journey of life.
Love,
Juju
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