Care
#Control# Cure
This is a very special
write up as the topic has been given by my Popsie. I feel blessed whenever he
motivates me to write on a topic. A lot of brain storming goes before I pen down
my thoughts.
If one goes by
dictionary definitions then, Cure is defined as -To make somebody healthy again
after an illness. Control means -power and ability to make somebody/something to
do what you want; a way of keeping somebody/something within certain limits.
Care means – looking after somebody / something so that he/she has what they
need for their health and protection.
These are more often
used in medical and health care domains. Over the years these words have
percolated into all realms and are freely used. There are many things or areas
in our lives which can be controlled, few which can be cured and rest can be taken
care of. Out of these three, care can be associated with other two
From a medical angle,
there are many diseases which can be controlled e.g. blood pressure, diabetes,
thyroid, auto immune, arthropathies, to name a few, but never cured.
Other diseases like aches in body, fever, infections, inflammatory pathologies
and even certain types of carcinomas can be cured. However, Care is the most essential
element in either case.
If we dwell upon human
nature then, my take will be on Triple A - Anger, Arrogance and Alcohol. Here,
one can control and even be cured of these habits. One can control anger
outbursts, control alcohol intake. However, Cure is a tedious and long journey,
requires grit and determination. Arrogance
differs in the sense. If one controls arrogance, I believe cure also occurs
simultaneously. Out of triple A, in arrogance, being aware is the key to
getting rid of it. Control leads to Cure with care all along to ensure there is
no reversal.
3 C’s are akin to the
basic X, Y, Z dimensions of this universe. All three C’s are interlinked and need
to be viewed together as a unit. Lay man uses these words loosely and at times
uses Cure and Control interchangeably. No offense intended. The basic idea is
generate a feel good factor within. Everyone must have heard certain phrases (especially in India) like,
“ I have diabetes, I am
taking medicines, eating bitter gourd and Indian blackberry ( jamun), my blood
sugar report is normal and my diabetes is cured.” And they stop taking
medicines only to come back with high blood sugar levels a couple of months
later.
“I have hypothyroidism;
I took medicine for 3 months, now my thyroid levels are normal. I am cured.”
And they stop taking medicine, only to come back.
Whether these phrases
are spoken by patients to doctors or by friends, remember one thing, you are
not here to correct them or make them aware. Just listen and ignore. The human mind is so wired that Denial tops the list. Acceptance comes much later. One should try to control the urge to counsel such people and help walk them under clear skies. Please remember the person who took the effort to wake mankind from slumber has usually been dealt in a bad way.
My Popsie’s favorite
line is “Yes, you are right.” This is his way of dismissing baseless,
confronting situations and discussions. When we talk and he utters these four
words, I often pause and check with to him, “Dad, are you dismissing me or you
are actually with me?” Majority of times, I hear a chuckle and his wise words, “I
leave it for you to decide.”
These things have helped
me evolve and transform in all spheres.
Happy to share, my 3rd
solo (15th) book, a sequel of Momsie Popsie Diary 2.0 is in the
publication process. Hoping to launch my book by next month.
Till then, control the
things you can, cure the things which can be, with utmost care.
Love,
Juju