DKDK

I invented this term DKDK during a routine conversation with a friend. Having walked on this blue planet for a long time with around fifty revolutions around the sun, both of us have a good amount of experience. 

Our younger ones are about to enter medical school. There are many challenges to explore, discuss and deal with, like deciding college, city, academics , hostel, extra curricular etc besides the lurking "empty nest syndrome." With spouses from different ideologies and backgrounds , we are each other's support system. She casually commented, " My husband doesn't listen to things which he has not seen and heard. Even if I give him sufficient evidence, he seldom believes." She paused to take a breath. 

I interrupted, "It's simple, it's DKDK!"

She forgot to inhale and gave me a questioning look - DKDK ? 

I smiled and explained," Look, majority of us don't know that we don't know. One believes their limited knowledge as whole and complete. Thus, making them non receptive. A human mind knows only 0.01% , rest is not known and the mind doesn't know. Hope it helps you understand humans especially your spouse better." 

We had a hearty laugh as we echoed DKDK. 

Love, 

Juju 

Book 26 live # The Janajaateey Tales

 Hello readers, 

My book no 26 is live. Featured as first story comprising of 8 folk tales from rural India. Available as Paperback, hardback and ebook. Do order your copy 

https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/the-janajaateey-tales

Love, 

Juju 

Open letter by Daughter in-law

Sharing one of my popular short story selected as the first story in a Book, Book Launch, January 13th 2024 KLC 24 (Kolkata Literary Carnival 2024). 

An open letter by daughter in-law to her mother in-law

(This is not a grievance letter. It’s my attempt to help you understand our new relation)

Dear mother in-law,

Hope this finds you in good health and a happy state of mind. Ever since I have got married to your son, I have noticed a change in your attitude and behavior. Earlier you seemed very welcoming and happy but now I sense a feeling of insecurity. Do you see me as a threat? I feel so. You seem to be critical about whatever I do or say especially in relation to your son who is now my husband.

We both have a great thing in common and that is love for the same man. I am not here to break ties of a son from his mother. A son you have given birth to and raised him with your heart and soul. I am here to make my own space as a wife and his life partner. 

Please do not burden him like this. I have many aspirations and look forward to a peaceful, harmonious married life. Inadvertently or purposely, you create differences in conveying my thoughts.

A mother has a big heart. All I am requesting is to give me space and time to adjust in your family. I have come from an entirely different background and culture. All this is new and very different. I need time to unlearn and relearn.

Another request, please do not compare me with your other children. They are great as sister/ brother in-laws. Let me build up a relation with them on one to one basis. You should be a secure, loving women. Why this insecurity? 

Please refrain from negative feedback about me to my husband. Most of the times, I never come to know why he is upset? I do have noticed this pattern that after spending time with you and his siblings, he always comes back disempowered with a volatile temperament

Please do not compare me with other daughter in-laws in your friend’s circle. Each human being is different. This alliance happened because of mutual consent between the girl, the boy and their respective families. Then why I am made to feel like a villain on mission to break this home!

Remember how you felt when you got married. The onus is always on elders to make the house environment comfortable for the new bride person. We need to work together to make this work.

I have come as an adult in your life unlike your children whom you have raised up. Let’s respect this beautiful relation of mother in-law and daughter in-law and work towards maintaining its sanctity.

Please communicate if you disapprove of some actions or my ways. If you don’t, then how will I come to know? We need to keep this communication gates always open.

Lets pledge to contribute. Please do not compete with me.

Yours,

Daughter in-law

 

 

 

 

 

 

JRC story # Tryst with Life

Dear readers,

Sharing story behind 

JRC Juju’s Reader Club ™ ®️ 

Mission: To Revive Book Reading Culture.

Logo message: Helping others heal

Created as an online Club on November 5, 2020 in Covid times with the Aim of Helping others heal, helps in self-healing. Unburden your heart, mind and soul. Fill up your emotional saucer with happiness, positivity and peace. There are 620+ Online Members.

This became Offline Club: November 1, 2022 with 4 founder members - Dr. Reemanshu Bansal (Juju’s Pearls), Twinkle Gupta, Disha Katia, Dr. Neha Garg in hometown, Bathinda, Punjab India with 43+ members. JRC meet is on 1st Tuesday every month (Timings: 6- 7 pm). Books of different genre are discussed.

JRC launched its dream project of “JRC Mobile Library” in collaboration with IRIA Punjab (Social Wing) & Goodwill Society Respected Shri K.K. Garg Uncleji- my guide/ friend /mentor in social work on November 1, 2023 

A mobile library for children living in the slums. We have heard that books have wings. Now books have feet. Now Books reach the slums via Mobile Library. This runs every Thursday/ friday During each visit, some eatables like biscuits/ fruit -apple are given to children who are studying in the mobile evening school and are eager to issue books. With almighty blessings, children are taking very good care of the books and all books have been returned so far in good condition. There are 3 evening mobile schools under JRC wings.

You can help by donating kindergarten books/ picture books.

JRC Theme for the year 2023-24

“Let’s ignite the minds: before we light the diyas.”  

Like minded souls with zeal for social work have come together and formed JRC Welfare Society ®️ registered April 3, 2024

Vision to promote menstrual hygiene in women living in slums, education of girl child and revive book reading culture.  

Be a part of the JRC movement!

Love,

Juju

 

 

TOP 18 INFLUENTIAL PERSONALITIES

Hello readers, 

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 Love 

Juju 

 

Book 25 is live # 11-11 Make a wish

Hello readers, 

My book is live and with this I complete 25 published books 

11-11 Make a wish 

(Making a wish is like whispering secrets to the universe, hoping for a magical response. It's a fleeting moment where dreams take flight on the wings of possibility, carrying our deepest desires to the stars above.

https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/11-11-make-a-wish

Love 

Juju

Book 24 is live # The Unveiling Radiance

Hello readers, 

Sharing link of my book 24th , close to my heart 

The Unveiling Radiance

(Women possess boundless strength and limitless potential, capable of overcoming any obstacle and achieving extraordinary feats. Their courage, wisdom, and compassion illuminate paths of empowerment and inspire generations to dream boldly and strive for greatness.)

https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/the-unveiling-radiance

Love, 

Juju 

Free-lancing!

Free-lancing!

 

Hello readers,

Since last five months or so, I am facing a crisis situation ever since my long-term house helper left the job suddenly as her children were going to Dubai. Since then, no helper is staying for longer than 1 week period. I have given chance to so many of them, that I have lost count. The shortest time period is one day.

These days, house help are in demand. There is always shortage. To combat this, each helper has taken many houses to improve their financial status. Recently, I learnt about few maids in a prime location with catchment houses exceeding their physical limitations. The way out is to skip houses in rotation (day offs), do other houses and so on. The salary of extra 2-3 houses is like a bonus. As on a single day they work in designated number of houses, and keep this cycle of rotation and day off.

Yesterday, incident was out of league. As usual a Nepali lady came enquiring about work. I told her about cleaning the houses and utensils. To which she replied, “Madamji! I am a cook. I was told you need a cook. But if you will insist, I will do the cleaning part.”

I replied, “I have a cook, I need help for the said work.”

Immediately. Her eyes lit up and she said, “I will ask my sister-in-law. She is into free-lancing.”

I was surprisingly shocked, “Free - lancing?”

She said, “Yes, free-lancing. It means you fix up working hours and salary and the work you want her to do. She is multi-talented. She has "khula khaata for work". Means you need to decide the work areas prior to hiring her. Unlike me, I can only cook food.”

A smile came up and I said, “Please send your free -lancer tomorrow.”

That’s another story that this lady went back to Nepal without informing. My search is still on. But I loved the use of this word in a maid's vocabulary. Seems like corporate culture is seeping in Maids community too. 

Love,

Juju.

Doctor! What should I do?

Doctor Diary Entries

Doctor! What should I do?

Disclaimer: Non -fiction anecdotes. Names have not been used to maintain privacy.

There is one NRI patient who comes every year for her ultrasound – mainly mammography, abdominal and pelvis studies. It’s been more than two years now that she has visited my centre. I pray to almighty for her well-being.

She works as a registered nurse in some foreign country (can’t recollect the name). She used to come to meet her daughter who was five years and living with her parents.

During initial check-ups, it used to be a very professional conversation. Gradually, she became more than just a patient. She had come to India for silicone breast implants and a follow up mammogram. During her next visit she told me her implant had leaked and she had to get it done again. During that particular visit, I noticed change in her appearance too. She confided, “Doctor, I come to India for cosmetic surgeries. Last year I had come for silicon breast implants. Now I have come for lip fillers, cheek contouring, tummy tuck and enhanced back.”

My jaw literally dropped and I couldn’t help but ask, “Why so many surgeries? What do you do? Are you into films?” She said, “No, doctor! I am a registered nurse.” I did not utter a word and gave her the reports. While collecting her reports, she politely asked, “Doctor, can I see you when you are free! I want to share my story “I replied, “Sure, we can sit once I am through with my patients.” She went to do her chores and returned.

Suddenly she started sobbing softly and said, “Doctor, I am tired of these plastic surgeries. I want to be a mother to my daughter. I want to take my daughter with me,” I just listened silently. She continued, “My husband is very particular about my physical appearance. Every year he suggests a plastic surgery and forces me to get it done from India. Chance of seeing my daughter always motivates me. I spend all my savings on these surgeries. He wants to change my look.” She pulled out a photo from her purse and said, “See, this picture. This is how I used to look, now I feel like a mannequin. I don’t recognize the person I see in the mirror every day.”

She started crying inconsolably. " Ours was a love marriage. I went against my parents to marry him. I have changed everything to make him happy. Still, he finds a fault in something or other, Plus, he doesn’t want to keep our daughter with us. He feels the baby will intrude into our privacy.”, she concluded. We sat in silence. We had another round of tea. Finally, she spoke, “Thank you mam! for your patient listening. Please guide me.”

I took a deep breath trying to assimilate what I had just heard in the last one hour.It definitely didn't sound real. I silently prayed to God for the right words. Words blurted out from my mouth. 

"Please show me your husband’s pic, what does he do by profession?"I enquired. She pulled out a photograph from her purse and said, “He is a Hair stylist and works in a Unisex Salon.” I couldn’t believe, what I saw!  In the picture, I saw a middle-aged man with receding hairline, unkempt beard, stained yellow teeth and a protruding belly. “You are doing to please this man?”, I pointed at his picture. She said, “He is my husband. He has this fancy of a perfect wife and forces me to undergo these life-threatening procedures. Doctor! what should I do ? What should I change?”

“Live your life, your way, take your daughter with you. And this time, Change, your husband,” I replied softly and gave her a re-assuring glance. She smiled, thanked me and left. I could see a confidence in her stride.  

I have not seen her since last two years. Hope all is well at her end.  

This patient's story was an eye opener (Seems like a script of some movie.)

Keep reading, keep sharing. Keep loving, keep caring.

Love,

Juju

CAP person !

Hello readers,

I am sharing a very interesting concept which I recently learnt. Although, many of us must be already practicing this in our day to day lives, I was enchanted by the term “CAP person”.

Right from our developmental stage, each soul develops their own ways to live and devise coping mechanisms accordingly. When life hits a rough patch or we tend to find ourselves on cross roads, CAP person works like a BLS -Basic Life Support system.

Right CAP is of utmost importance to protect us from harsh weather and helps us in braving the chill/ adversities of life.

We have our inner circle as well as an outer circle. Blessed are those souls who have that one person in their life, who prevents their life from derailing from the main track or acts like an oxygen mask in times of suffocation.

This soul is a good listener, is non-judgemental, self-motivated with a positive attitude and always leaves you empowered.  The onus is on us to identify such souls and cherish the bonds.

CAP stands for Calling A Positive (person).

I know my CAPs.

Hope you know your CAPs too.

Keep reading, keep sharing

Keep loving, Keep caring.

Love,

Juju

Listing links MPD 2.0 #/Book 15

Hello readers, 

Sharing listing links of my Best seller book creating ripples and positive waves in Literary ocean. 🏆 Golden Book Awards, Suenos Book of the year, Young Adult Book of the year, 8th Indie Author championship.

Momsie Popsie Diary 2.0 Reimagining Life's Tapestry

Available as Paperback, Hardback, Kindle, Audiobook and language translation in Filipino, Japanese, French and Italian (in process) translations.  

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Indian Links:

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e-Book Links:

Amazon Kindle

https://www.amazon.in/MOMSIE-POPSIE-DIARY-TIME-LIVING-ebook/dp/B08M6FPDJV

 Google Play

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Love, 

Juju