Watch!!

Are you watching?

Brahma-mahurat is the best time of the day to introspect and chat with your own good self. This is the time before dawn when sun is rising from slumber as night is paving way for it. The sky is clear with stillness in the environment as if Divine power is creating a connection with his creation. One can hear beautiful sounds of birds, breeze, leaves which are otherwise engulfed by noises during the day.

I looked at my watch to check time as I had to wake up my little monk. A thought came with a bang - Watch! Watch! Watch! Why did I look at my watch in middle of my meditation? Internally, I gave an answer- to check the time so as not to get late in waking up my monk. This little action of watching reflected about my current priorities in life and ensured my thought and work was aligned. All it took was just a moment to be in synchrony.

Multiple thoughts started churning in my mind with a question – If we watch at the right moment, majority of our problems will vanish. At that very moment I pledged- 

I will watch – how and what  I speak,

I will watch – what I hear,

I will watch – what I see,

I will watch – what I think,

I will watch – when and what I eat,

I will watch – how I breathe

I will watch – how I sit

I will watch ……….. 

And the list became endless.

The clear message from Divine was - one moment of awareness create infinite moments of awareness. 

Live in the moment. 

Happy watching!

Love,

Juju

The Ogre Sleep

The Ogre Sleep

There are times in lucky one’s life when 24 hours seem less and all days are Mondays. Sunrise and sunset happen at such a fast pace, so much so the calendar change seems to occur after every few days.

If you are currently in this phase, then you will resonate with the title. Generally, there is a goal and all efforts are targeted towards achieving it. Everything takes a back seat especially sleep. Though I know this should not occur. When the aim is set very high, sacrifices are bound to be huge.

A shout out to all children and their parents especially mothers who align themselves with their children’s goal. Once a while maybe after a fortnight or so, I sleep for around 8-10 hours at a stretch. I call this my Ogre sleep, after my favorite Shrek- Fiona.

This sleep time energizes recharges and rewires all my neurons. I call it a body maintenance therapy which every physical form needs.

I am eager to know who all take The Ogre Sleep. I welcome them to this club

( It’s important to sleep 6-8 hours every day as per medical world, However, there are souls like me who can function of 5 hours or less for days together before they take their Ogre sleep.)

Love,

Juju.

 

 

3 C’s of our life

Care #Control# Cure

This is a very special write up as the topic has been given by my Popsie. I feel blessed whenever he motivates me to write on a topic. A lot of brain storming goes before I pen down my thoughts.

If one goes by dictionary definitions then, Cure is defined as -To make somebody healthy again after an illness. Control means -power and ability to make somebody/something to do what you want; a way of keeping somebody/something within certain limits. Care means – looking after somebody / something so that he/she has what they need for their health and protection.

These are more often used in medical and health care domains. Over the years these words have percolated into all realms and are freely used. There are many things or areas in our lives which can be controlled, few which can be cured and rest can be taken care of. Out of these three, care can be associated with other two

From a medical angle, there are many diseases which can be controlled e.g. blood pressure, diabetes, thyroid, auto immune, arthropathies, to name a few, but never cured. Other diseases like aches in body, fever, infections, inflammatory pathologies and even certain types of carcinomas can be cured. However, Care is the most essential element in either case.

If we dwell upon human nature then, my take will be on Triple A - Anger, Arrogance and Alcohol. Here, one can control and even be cured of these habits. One can control anger outbursts, control alcohol intake. However, Cure is a tedious and long journey, requires grit and determination.  Arrogance differs in the sense. If one controls arrogance, I believe cure also occurs simultaneously. Out of triple A, in arrogance, being aware is the key to getting rid of it. Control leads to Cure with care all along to ensure there is no reversal.

3 C’s are akin to the basic X, Y, Z dimensions of this universe. All three C’s are interlinked and need to be viewed together as a unit. Lay man uses these words loosely and at times uses Cure and Control interchangeably. No offense intended. The basic idea is generate a feel good factor within. Everyone must have heard certain phrases (especially in India) like,

“ I have diabetes, I am taking medicines, eating bitter gourd and Indian blackberry ( jamun), my blood sugar report is normal and my diabetes is cured.” And they stop taking medicines only to come back with high blood sugar levels a couple of months later.

 “I have hypothyroidism; I took medicine for 3 months, now my thyroid levels are normal. I am cured.” And they stop taking medicine, only to come back.

Whether these phrases are spoken by patients to doctors or by friends, remember one thing, you are not here to correct them or make them aware. Just listen and ignore. The human mind is so wired that Denial tops the list. Acceptance comes much later. One should try to control the urge to counsel such people and help walk them under clear skies. Please remember the person who took the effort to wake mankind from slumber has usually been dealt in a bad way. 

My Popsie’s favorite line is “Yes, you are right.” This is his way of dismissing baseless, confronting situations and discussions. When we talk and he utters these four words, I often pause and check with to him, “Dad, are you dismissing me or you are actually with me?” Majority of times, I hear a chuckle and his wise words, “I leave it for you to decide.”

These things have helped me evolve and transform in all spheres.   

Happy to share, my 3^rd solo (15^th) book, a sequel of Momsie Popsie Diary 2.0 is in the publication process. Hoping to launch my book by next month.

Till then, control the things you can, cure the things which can be, with utmost care.

 

Love,

Juju          

I wish I was on the other side of phone!

 I wish I was on the other side of phone !

 

While talking to an old friend, our conversation drifted to the foundation of marriage. She remarked, “One has to give in a lot in a marriage to make it work.” I was surprised by this remark of give in . I replied, “In a marriage, both partners need to build it up. So, we use the word institution. It is not a sphere where one needs to give in or take out. If one feels one is giving in, then the expectations arise. Only when we build it together, do we realize the true essence of it. ”

These words knocked her out. I could hear silence. I patiently waited for her to come to present. In a couple of seconds, I could hear her hello and we were back on our track. With a feeling of giving in, one has an unseen baggage of expectations whereas in building up, one always strives to give their best without any returns. All the old sayings have deep meanings, although generations have lost on the actual meaning and just clanged on to phrases.

Our conversation steered towards a situation when one spouse takes the other for granted. This seemed to touch my friend’s Achilles point. Her voice quivered as she said, “How I wish I am always on the other side of my husband’s phone!” There was a pause and a palpable silence. I waited for her to continue. She sighed deeply and continued, “My husband is always talks politely to people who call him. And when it comes to me, he always talks in an arrogant, rude tone. I feel it’s best if we talk on the phone.”

This is a very common human behavior to be in their best form when they talk to people outside their home boundaries. When it comes to people living in the house, the tone is usually hurried, annoyed, arrogant or angry. To be the best for the rest! Is how I put it? My friend seemed to enter her shell and abruptly ended the conversation.

After a long time, I adorn my thinking cap. How ironical! One works for his family’s comfort and when time comes to spending time with them, there is always a paucity of time or patience. I am leaving this without a concluding remark as each one has to write his/ her own.

Time to introspect, in a pursuit to make a living for people close to us, one tends to get closer to people outside leading to creation of gaps in families.

Please mind the gap and try your best to fill it or let it not happen in the first place.

Love,

Juju         

Ghosting !

 Ghosting!

 Ghosting means, when someone cuts off all communication without any explanation. This extends to all the things it seems. Most of us think about it in the context of digital departure like a friend not responding to a text or even worse, your loved ones not responding to your texts or calls. This has always happened since times immemorial.  Earlier, we used to call it ignoring, now gen next uses the word ghosting and it is self explanatory. When they say, “Are you ghosting me? Or I am being ghosted. This happens in all spheres of life more often in social situations.

Understanding this term is fine. Important is to understand why does one ghost? This has deep roots as to how one is brought up in this world and later how the person views this world. Walking on my literary path, I have realized human behaviour and responses are a summation of their childhood experiences and their bonding with their parents.

Another aspect is who holds priority in your life. One will never ghost people who are at higher level. This is meant for only those whom one considers inferior. A mother in law doesn’t feel the need to answer or call back her daughter in law’s message. But she will quickly reply to her son or daughter or son in law. Daughter in laws are not acknowledged even after spending decades in the household. Unknowingly the seeds of ghosting and hatred are sown in her mind and she may behave the same way when she is in elevated in her status.

The environment in one’s family and behaviour of parents with their children and other relatives and helpers is the crux. The duty of a parent is huge as they are nurturing a future adult. The onus is always on the parents. With changing times, mind sets are also changing. Looking after one’s own child has been categorized as a Mother’s job. With working women on the rise, children are left in custody of helpers/ home cares or with grandparents (in the best scenario).

I always empower and motivate souls in my aura. One needs to devise a strategy and mechanism so that your child feels your presence in your absence. Women are good at this.

In majority of cases, women who are home makers feel their worth is less than their working husband. One needs to understand, men by nature are providers. Earning is just aspect, the main job is how to run the house smoothly in that a defined financial amount. This gender gap is too large and I believe will never be get closed till same gender respect each other.

To conclude, if you feel you are being ghosted, trust your guts. And try and understand that the person who is ghosting you, many a times has nothing to do with you. It’s about their own mental state, insecurities and complexes. This reflects more about them rather than you. This is workable and acceptable in friendships. If this happens in relationships especially loved ones, it hurts really deep. Be strong enough to forgive and move on.

You never criticize or bad mouth a person who is ill. Such persons are in lower stages of evolvement. Sympathize with them.

Ghosting is God’s own way of filtering out souls not required in your journey of life.

Love,

Juju

13th Book # Nyra Volume II

Hello readers, 

Please find below, listing link of my 13th book, Nyra Volume II 

https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/nyra-volume-ii

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Keep reading, keep sharing

Love,

Juju' s Pearls 

12th Book # Petals & Chocolate Volume III

Hello readers, 

Please find below link of my 12th book Petals & Chocolate Volume III 

https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/petals-chocolates-volume-iii

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Keep reading, keep sharing

Love,

Juju' s Pearls 

Golden Book Awards 2023

 Dear readers,

Feeling happy and humbled as I share link of my photos & video of Golden Book Award. This is a one of the most prestigious Literary Awards.  I share frame with Deepak Chopra, Jeff Kinney, Ruskin Bond, J.K. Rowling, Gaur Gopal Das, Ashneer Grover, Namita Thapar, Deepak Bajaj and many other literary giants. 

Here's the link

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https://photos.app.goo.gl/E6KtYG4sRSqDfTSV9

Keep loving, Keep caring.

Keep reading, Keep sharing.

Love,

Juju

14th Book # Dear Mom Volume II

Dear readers,

Happy to share my 14th Book Dear Mom Volume II is live now. This will be placed in the prestigious oldest world book fair - Frankfurt Buchmesse Book Fair, October 18- October 22, 2023.

Availability in all formats: https://www.ukiyotoindia.com/product-page/dear-mom-volume-ii

This book features my short story as the first story. This is a concise biography about my mother in 13 chapters. I have tried my best to do justice and give you an insight.

Do order your copy today.

Keep loving. Keep caring.

Keep reading. Keep sharing

Love,

Juju.

Keep your heart healthy & happy

Dear readers, 

Sharing few points from my experiences to keep one's heart healthy and happy.

1) Take onus of your words, behaviour and actions. Always remember your vibrations reach before you.

2) The most precious thing is expecting transparency ( especially for those living in joint families). This is a virtue off evolved souls.

3) For couples, do not burden your spouse with expectations. One person cannot do justice to all roles. For example, spouse may be a loving parent but not a compassionate life partner or vice versa. Maybe a hard worker with very good income but time availability issue and so on.

4) Enjoy your family time. Do not cut from your family time ( unless it's an emergency).

5) Always praise your spouse and children. Be vocal about positive, empowering words. The world has enough of critics.

6) While gifting, remind yourself, how will you feel if someone gifted the same to you.

"No gift" is far better than a bad/poor gift. The value of gift reflects one's own thoughts and standard, contrary to popular belief of what the other person deserves.

7) Lead a debt free, guilt free life. Don't waste your time and energy on, " What will people say? " Rather focus on, " What will my family say?  " No one has seen "those four" people whose job is to spy on you. In today's world, you can consider yourself lucky if you can have four people in your last journey. 

8) There are always 3 sides of a story. Yours, mine and the truth.

9) Everyone has the same 24 hours. It's always about prioritizing.

10) Relish and cherish your family and relations. Create beautiful memories. Many a times in relations, logic doesn't work, so follow your heart.

11) The most important lesson is - Keep two important connections secure - between brain & heart and brain& tongue This is the golden key to a happy, satisfied, comfortable life.

12) Do express your emotions while the person is in this world. Don't hold back for the time when they cross over to other realm. 

13) Remember, you die only once. And, you get a chance to live everyday. Embrace life with arms wide open.

Love,

 Juju 

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Author Talkshow

Hello Readers, 

Click on this link to listen to my Impromptu Author Talkshow at Lit Business Meet, Vivanta Taj New Delhi 26th March, 2023

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Love,

Juju