Hello readers,
Happy to share my book
My Mind's Cafe 28 stories for a love tooth has been featured in
Top 10 Books of the Month / October 2022 [ Editor's Choice]
https://www.delhiwire.com/top-10-books-of-the-month-october-editors-choice/8911
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Keep reading keep sharing.
Love,
Juju
My dear readers,
Feeling blessed, motivated, inspired to see my name in Top 50 Inspiring Women of India. List released in HT - Hindustan Times, Business Standard & Fox Story.
Here are the links :
Hindustan Times:-
List of India’s 50 Inspiring Women 2022 by Fox Story India Released
https://www.hindustantimes.com/brand-stories/list-of-india-s-50-inspiring-women-2022-by-fox-story-india-released-101670320553767.html
Fox Story India:-
https://foxstoryindia.com/2022/11/26/list-of-indias-50-inspiring-women-2022-by-fox-story-india-released/
Magazine Link:-
https://issuu.com/foxstoryindia/docs/october_print_copy-compressed
Love,
Juju
Gone too soon A.J. # Koi naa! Koi naa!
Disclaimer: This write-up is inked with author’s soul as
it is an ode to her precious pearl# uncle #mamaji who left his mortal coil. A
sensitive write up.
All battles end sooner or later. Almost all battles cause
harm to both parties. In this particular battle of Alchemist, the opponent was
God himself. Not even for a single moment our faith deterred and we kept on
going and going. It was fight unto death.
Remembering my first friend in my household after marriage,
A.J. was at the driving seat as he took me along with his nephew (my husband) home
after my marriage. He was a man with impeccable mannerisms and a knack to
communicate with people of all age groups. He was very fond of children and had
a unique way with them. He was my most trusted, secure connection with the
entire household. His pet tag line was,” Koi naa! Koi naa!” and these two words
worked like magic. He taught us how to build and maintain relation. Because of
him, the entire household of more than sixty members remained united. He was
the first one to extend a helping hand or a shoulder to cry or an embrace to
comfort. He taught us so many things and provided a shelter just like my Momsie
Popsie. He referred to his home as my chhota maika. He loved unconditionally
and remembered even minutest details about our preferences.
As I touched his cold forehead and bid my goodbye, the entire
two decades went by in a flash of moment. And all I could see was his warm
smile and love in his eyes. This write up can never do justice as words are not
enough. Feeling happy to see his values and morals in his children. I am
overwhelmed to see our family united through thick and thin. As I took my
leave, I started seeing him in his children, his nephews and a feeling of
calmness enveloped me. He lives in us and will always remain so. I feel he has
crossed into a different realm, another dimension where he can see us and we
can’t. As my Popsie says, “ In the court of God, there is no appeal, one must
accept his decision with folded hands.”
If you love and care for someone, please do express with
whole heart. One never knows when that moment comes!
Love,
Juju
How much is “Too Much”?
Everyone must have heard this statement at some point of time or other. She/He cares too much, She/He loves too much, She/He spends too much time with their children, She/ He spends too much time in his office, too much on studies, on phone, in gym, in kitties, in being social, on social media, list is long.
I decided to search tools which could measure or
calibrate “too much.” My search led to reading various books and ended with discussion
with my Popsie. We talked in length about this, if some tool existed which
could help us in calibrating too much. Each one has a unique life’s perspective
which is dependent on various factors like family background and environment
during childhood. A man is a summation of genetic make-up conditioned by his
circumstances.
Finally, my inner voice gave me the insight. This term
“too much” is relative, holds no value and cannot be measured. It all depends
upon one’s own priorities and conscience. “Where focus goes, energy flows”
is a summation of the title. Depending upon one’s priorities, each one devotes
time and energy in that particular direction. There can never be one common
platform or measure to weigh the priorities. It's important to realise , what is too much for
one person might be too less for other. Think, introspect and get in touch with
me. Hey! don’t think too much.
Oops! I did it again. With a promise to keep conscious
check on my words, enjoy last eighth weekend of year 2022.
Love,
Juju.
Change conjunction # transform life!
(It’s all about use of conjunctions – but,
in our daily conversation)
A routine wellbeing call, stirred a storm in my Mind’s
Café when my friend said, “I want to go for morning walk but…., I want to join dance
class but…., I want to go for a trek but ……”
This went on for few minutes when I suddenly felt the
urge to stop her. Every sentence she spoke had two parts. First part was about
the activity she wanted to do and second part was all about the justification
rather excuse of how/why she was unable to do the first part. I could follow
her conversation very well.
I have observed, this word “but” holds a very important place in our vocabulary. This conjunction is used to join two ideas that are opposite. Introspection led to dawning -whenever and where ever we want to justify ourselves, we use the word but. I find this word negative as it generates a palpable pause when used and the user adopts a defensive line of action. There is associated unspoken lack of responsibility and motivation. I explained in brief and requested my friend to use the word “and” instead of “but”. Luckily, she understood my philosophy. We resumed with our conversation. Sharing a part of how it went.
I want to go for morning walk and I have to drop my child to school at the same time. I want to join evening dance class and I have to attend my evening office duty. I want to go for trek this winter and my child has board exams. She sent a kiss through the mobile and said, “Thanks dear, now I feel I can do both the things. Earlier, I used to feel helpless and demotivated. Now I feel positive and in control of my life.”
“Always there for you, happy for you. Thanks! I too got an
idea for my blog,” I smiled as I disconnected the call. I have adopted this
since long. Hope you adopt this consciously too. Word is indeed world. Wishing my
Reader’s a happy, motivated and empowered life.
(P.S. I have to start my next project and I have to resume my yoga.
Both require mind, body and soul alignment. Feeling unstoppable already.)
Love,
Juju.
Hello readers,
I feel humbled to share my 11th book is out. Title : Tales in the City Volume 1.
To be adapted into short film (Availability in all formats)
https://www.
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Keep reading, Keep sharing
Love,
Juju's Pearls
When a day seems like eternity!
P.S. This write up is dedicated to all the
souls who have had tryst with wait and grief. My personal request to all my
readers to send healing healthy energies in name of a precious pearl A.J.
How a routine day will unfold, no body can guess. It
may be adventurous, life threatening or even an upside-down kind of a day. If
one is lucky enough such a situation can be overcome. In such challenging situations,
faith gets shaken the most, one falters and many a times at loss on how to
behave. Mind get frozen when one of your most dear persons is admitted in an
Intensive Care Unit in a hospital. This is the time when a day seems like
eternity. I have devised a formula approach. Remember, “When the going gets
tough, the tough gets going!”
One can defeat adverse situation by being tough. Form
a core group of people who are positive and motivated. Here being positive matters.
Not even one moment of negativity or doubt. Discuss well with the attending doctor,
have faith and trust the treatment given. If required, do not hesitate to take a
second opinion. Faith can move mountains. Here we are talking about a human
being weighing less than 100 kg. Faith tops the list.
Another crucial point is surrendering to almighty. “Nothing
happens without God’s will.” Keep reinforcing this and let each and every cell
in your body surrender to God selflessly. Generate a chain of prayers so that universe
conspires and targets all healing vibration towards your loved one. Let your
doctors team take care of the treatment plan. Have faith, keep patience, the
rainbow is about to appear. The day which seems like eternity will soon become
a memory. Hold on! This too shall pass.
Love,
Juju.
Humor # Pre-Diwali
An impromptu short write up which I want to share with all of you. A change in outlook brings out sheer joy.
I called up my friend in the morning to
enquire about her plans for the day. “Today, is my Diwali cleaning day. I find this
task so Herculean and always end up feeling, I could have done better,” she answered
in a heavy voice.
“How about sent-up exam before this Herculean task?”
I promptly replied. This brought my friend in the present moment and she sounded
confused. “What do you mean?” she asked.
Now, I was sure she was paying full attention and I enjoyed those few after minutes thoroughly. Clearing my throat I said, “Look, before any final university exams, students need to appear for pre university or sent-ups. Just like pre-boards before board exams. Similarly, if you want to practice, I am generous enough to offer my house as sent-up exam. You are welcome to clean my house, test your instruments/ gadgets and skills properly before you attempt this in your house,” I replied in a most calm, soothing voice and tone.
I don’t understand as to why she disconnected with some inaudible whispers. She has blocked me since then.
This was just to add comic tadka. Infact, we laughed our hearts out and my friend said, " I know you will write a blog on this before the day ends. " My friends know me really well. Feel blessed.
Love,
Juju
“No! there is no need.”
Of late, this word was in my friend’s
vocabulary, for almost everything her children requested or demanded. This word
“No” was a reflex as she would refuse anything and everything her children
asked for or talked about. This went around for few days before her elder monk
called up and said, “Aunty, there is something wrong. My mother doesn’t know
the meaning of right/wrong and neither does she know how to raise teenagers. We
have become used to hearing “No there is no need” for most of things. At times,
she doesn’t even bother to know what we are conveying to her. This two-letter
word feels like a slap. Please counsel her.”
I knew my friend was a strict parent who
believed in a disciplined upbringing. As her children entered teenage years,
she tightened the reins and put a restrain on almost everything. It seemed so
that she had started finding calm in the word ‘No! there is no need.” This was
like an escape mechanism. The alarm was loud and clear however, my friend was
unaware.
Majority of our discussions are done during our walks.
So, I invited her for an evening walk with the intention of apprising her of
the situation. After walking round the park two times, we ordered tea and settled
on the lush green grass. I causally asked about the words she remembers from
her childhood which her parents used often. Immediately she replied, “My
parents used to listen to us and always left the decision on us once we were in
high school.” I further probed, “How many times have you heard the word No?” “Not
often”, she replied. Thereafter, we sipped tea in silence and watched the sun
set.
“We are in the middle phase of our lives, earlier we had parents who took care of us, Now we have to look after our children and as the clock ticks, it will be our children who will probably look after us. We should strengthen these bonds time and again. Our children learn through our unspoken actions much more than our spoken words. By repeated statement - No! there is no need, you are paving way for difficult time in coming years. Think about it,” I said. She seemed to shake herself and sighed. “Hey! you are right, if I assert myself as parent when my children are dependent on us, definitely they will do the same when we become dependent on them, God forbid if we do,” she spoke thoughtfully in a slow guarded way. We finished our tea, paid the bill and started walking towards the parking. As she reached for a car door, she turned around, smiled and hugged me for few seconds. In those few seconds, we experienced one of the best connectivity.
Over the next few months, there was a change in her
equation with her children and peace prevailed. “ You shall reap what you sow.”
Sow wisely and carefully
Love,
Juju.
An ode to my “Couch”
In life, we have people on whom we depend daily, who
act as our standby and many a times our cushions and shock absorbers. This
write up is dedicated to couch which has stood the test of time since last sixteen
years. There has been change of place, change of cover etc. Not once has it
ever let me down.
Here is my six by one-and-a-half-foot couch which
was tailor made with a comfortable forty-five-degree angle back rest. Sensing
my discomfort in my last trimester, my soul mate ordered this couch. I have
spent restless nights during my last trimester in a fairly comfortable way.
This acted like an additional bed, many a times as emergency space in order to
clean the bed. It has been a witness to the growing years of my monks. It took
pride in laying out their board games, their arguments, their reconciliation, heard
innumerable discussions and stories on various topics
When my monks entered primary school, it’s utility
started declining and soon it seemed like a space occupying object. Someone suggested
to post it on OLX a site where things (used/ new) are sold and bought. With a
heavy heart, I clicked all possible profiles of my couch to be put up on social
media. As my partner was about to upload, I heard a shallow weep. In my heart I
knew my couch was weeping as it was being put up for sale. That moment, I decided
to take it to my office at my work place. The very next day, I felt my couch
had a different feel.
Soon, this couch was set up in my office. It
adjusted very well with the other furniture. Change of place led to a makeover
and my couch looked beautiful. Many a times, my monks would come straight from
school to my office, rest on the couch and leave for home. My friends and colleagues
who came found themselves on the couch. This served as a resting place to tired
feet, straining backs and cluttered minds. My friends would call up and say, “Feeling
very tired today, chai pilaygi? You do your work and I will rest on the couch.”
Soon, this was a hot spot for my tea sessions where
everything under the sun was discussed. My couch beamed with life and was a
part of all conversations. Only the privileged were offered couch, for others
there were office chairs.
This couch has been a part of my second innings and
holds a special place. Now, it has entered my third innings as an Author. At
times, I feel just like the famous saying, “Walls have ears!”, I believe even our
permanent furniture have ears and even develop an emotional quotient too over
years
I feel so for my couch, how about you ?
Love,
Juju.
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